What a wild ride I have been on this weekend and I have learned an important and painful lesson:  Speaking one’s truth can clear the air and open positive dialog, or it can create more pain and division.  In my community, the latter has occurred.  And I realize it is because there was no longer a safe container to hold our views or our shadow.  Sadly it is much like the outer world.

In functional relationships, there is a foundation of love and trust.  If that foundation is there, pointing out behaviors and attitudes one believes are creating disruption and dissension, in the hopes that they may be acknowledged and changed, can be healthy and healing.  But for this to be productive, to have a positive outcome, we need both to hold a loving space for the others involved and for ourselves.  When people feel loved, they may not like what is being said, but they are able to keep an equilibrium and know that differences can be hashed out, and that honesty can clear the air and strengthen connections.

But here’s the important caveat:  In order to receive that love, to trust it, we need to be able to hold a loving container for ourselves.  Then we are able to hear criticism, to calmly ponder its validity, to own what is ours with an intent to ‘work on it,’ still feeling safe, loving and good.  If we lack authentic self-love, it becomes impossible to use critical feedback productively.  Either we will not be able to see any of its truth and go on the attack, or we will feel we are being victimized, or we will use whatever has been said, to victimize ourselves.  Or all of the above.

Sadly, that level of self-love and therefore our ability to hold a safe and loving container for ourselves and others is very rare.  And it is perhaps the most important quality we need to develop in order to transform our planet.  Years ago, a channeler told me I was not ready to get my books out into the world because I did not love myself enough.  I was shocked.  I thought I did.  But in closer examination, I realized that while I liked myself, I did not love myself enough to open to others’ criticism of me and my work, and still feel safe to get my teachings out to the world.  I have worked long and hard on this, and I’m grateful that now in my mid-70’s, this has totally shifted, but if I hadn’t been directed to look more deeply, I might never have gotten here.

So please look within.  Look at the places where you love yourself and can hold loving support for others.  Look more deeply at your places of fear, of your need for other’s approval and recognition. Then look deeply at your competitiveness, jealousy, self-righteousness, unprocessed anger.  Call in your angels and Spirit guides to fill your cells with Divine love.  Breathe that in and breathe that out.  And love yourself all the more for your willingness to do all of this. Now more than ever, we need to step into emotional health and well-being to hold a transformative container for ourselves and our world.

Below you will find information about my podcasts as well as current and exciting new offerings.  Please check these out.  I’ll be doing another Zoom book event this Sunday, and I’m most excited about the Global Shamanic Multidimensional Mystery School that I co-created with Carley Mattimore and which we are now preparing to offer ONLINE starting early November.  You’ll have to scroll down for more information.

Sending you all blessings and love.

And remember to love your beautiful self and your un-beautiful self.